Baby Loss Awareness Week – Dads Have Miscarriages Too

Baby Loss Awareness Week

This week is Baby Loss Awareness week.

My wife and I have experienced 2 miscarriages.

One over my wedding to the love of my life and one back in the summer just gone. Both were very different for a variety of reasons but both were bloody hard. Feeling helpless, desperate and empty are difficult feelings for any man. I believe t’s even harder when dads are neglected.

As I’ve documented and shared my miscarriage experiences I’ve learnt that there are 1000’s of dads burying their feelings of grief, anxiety and sadness.

But they don’t have to suffer in silence. We aim to encourage dads to share their miscarriage stories and feelings. I was staggered at the response I got when I first shared. I received emails of thanks for ‘making it alright’ for dads to talk about it and the stories people sent me are so powerful.

In response we’ve created 4 places for dads, who have or are experiencing miscarriage, to find support.

1. Our private network just for dads.

This is a phenomenally supportive group of over 1300 dads from all over the globe sharing the highs and lows of fatherhood. Including miscarriage and baby loss.My first experience of miscarriage was so unique and rare, being over my wedding day. I never thought anyone would understand. Then I met Carl in the private dads network. He’d experienced the same thing and finally I had someone I could talk to and someone that understood. That support from another dad was priceless.

2. Our parent forum

This is an open space to share stories and ask for support or advice.

3. Miscarriage for Dads Infographic

There aren’t many resources for dads going through miscarriage. So we created one ourselves.

4. A space to share miscarriage stories with the world. 

Upload your story here. Sometimes, simply writing it down goes a long way to exploring your emotions and processing your feelings. Sharing your story could help another dad as well. It also offers the opportunity to celebrate and remember.

You can also find some great support from the Miscarriage Association.

For those who have experienced or are experiencing miscarriage and baby loss, my heart goes out to you and I hope you find the support that you need. Let’s break the taboos this Baby Loss Awareness Week.



  1. Pete 5 May, 2016 / 9:33 am

    It’s 9.17am on the 5th of May and I’m sat in a ward at a hospital in Liverpool, while my wife is having surgery following our 6th miscarriage in 5 years.

    I can’t explain my emotions….I’ve gone past fear and anger….hurt and despair….I just don’t know what to feel! I’m strong for my wife who has experienced heartache and pain like no one could ever understand, but the sense of helplessness is so big I feel completely redundant. Life can be so cruel at times but we carry on and hold each other…..pray for us guys…..thank you.

    • Al Ferguson 6 May, 2016 / 11:47 am

      I have no words mate. Hence the delayed reply. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. If you wanna send me an email direct, my email is or join our private Facebook group. There’s 2,500 dads in there, many of whom have experienced miscarriage, so I’m sure they can offer you some words of encouragement & support. It’d be great to welcome you :)

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