My First Fathers Day With Ted

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*This is a sponsored post and all opinions expressed are my own

On Father’s Day I shared a post about the 10 things I love about being a dad. Each dad in the world will have their own list of 10 things, but it’s these things that are at the heart of Father’s Day.

Someone asked me recently, “What does Father’s Day mean to you?” And to be perfectly blunt, in that moment, I was a little flummoxed and had to give it some thought. Crafting an answer about the personal meaning of Father’s Day isn’t something I could just roll off the tongue.

That question has been resonating in my mind and I’ve been thinking to myself about the best way to answer. I started off my thinking with what being a dad means to me. I came up with this.

It means that I get to write the adventures of my children and influence their lives like no other. It means having a unique connection & relationship with them that no-one else in the world will have and it means being there, unconditionally loving them no matter what life throws at them or me.

Then I thought about what actually happened on Father’s Day. It obviously varies for everyone but my day went something like this:

Most weekends I head out for a walk with my dad; 3 generations, two dads, two sons and the great outdoors. It’s a special time for me and I have learnt a lot about fatherhood from my dad. Both things I want to do and things I don’t want to do, but whichever way, his influence has made me a better dad.

We went out for breakfast and opened some thoughtful gifts. There is so much talk about what to get dads for Father’s Day, but the truth is, get them something that they’d actually like and to do this, you need to know them. I think it’s safe to assume that my lovely wife was the real brains behind the gifts. Just goes to show me that she knows me well.

I took some time for myself and popped out for a quick lake swim. It was nice to have time to spend on my own interests. I think that a lot of dads feel the same. Yes, we are dads but we’re also men and it’s good sometimes to have time to ourselves to do the things we love.

We spent the rest of the afternoon in the park as a family, playing in the sun. Ted went to bed and I had some beer, more food and time to spend with my wife.

I had a wonderful day and enjoyed celebrating but I wonder whether everyone’s is the same. I’m a believer in Father’s Day; I think it’s crucial to recognise that dads are important. There has been such a huge focus, globally, on mums raising children while dads go to work and we’re just beginning to see this shift a little. Viewing dads as equal parents is vital and I believe that Father’s Day plays a big role in this.

I also think that baby brands are playing a big role in this too. Recently we’ve been working with Johnson & Johnson in the run-up to Father’s Day and they’re creating some amazing videos celebrating dads. Here’s one of them

Join Al and Ted in our new *Daddy Diaries* series; where dads talk to us about how being a dad makes them feel. Al shares his thoughts on bath time and why that bonding time is so special to him. Is bath time Daddy time in your household too?

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Being Ted’s dad is unreal. It evokes in me feelings that aren’t like any others. Pride, joy, excitement, awe, wonder, surprise, happiness…the list could go on. I guess that these feelings all combine to create a father’s love. Is there anything like a father’s love in this world? I don’t think so. Not that I’ve experienced and nothing that I know of.

I believe that a fathers love is unique and is unrivalled. (But then again, I’m a father and I bet mums would say the same thing.)

I hope that every Father’s Day will be as equally wonderful as this one and I hope that each one is different in some way. But my thought process has taken me on a journey and also a conclusion.

For me, Father’s Day means: Celebrating a father’s unconditional love.

I hope that this meaning will never change.

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41 Comments

  1. Ned 26 June, 2015 / 11:17 am

    Second to last sentence sums it all up for me! That’s what it’s all about :)

  2. Jodie 26 June, 2015 / 7:55 pm

    A lovely from the heart post! I don’t think all dads feel this way though.

  3. Silly Mummy 27 June, 2015 / 1:48 am

    Lovely post. Glad you & Ted had a great day! #bigfatlinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 8:19 am

      Thank you :)

  4. John Adams 27 June, 2015 / 5:29 am

    I’m a bit conflicted about Father’s Day. I don’t do a huge amoutn to aknowledge it but my kids, as they get older, want to and so we had a special meal, gifts etc. I just think being a dad is being a dad and I personally don’t need a special day to mark that. That said, however, your post make a really interesting point about Mother’s Day. This does dwarf Father’s Day and reinforces the idea that children and childcare = mums. Anything to redress that balance should be welcomed. I shall now be off to look at this video you’ve shot for JOhnson’s. #BigFatLinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 8:19 am

      I know what you mean John. Every day should be Father’s Day. But I guess it’s a nice sentiment.

  5. Sarah Howe 27 June, 2015 / 6:21 am

    Lovely post – I think it is so important that Dad’s are recognised more. I read a post recently where a school wasn’t doing Father’s Day cards not to upset those without Dads! I tricky one but what about all those poor Dads? I sounds like you had a lovely day with Ted, you Dad, your wife and just with yourself. Perfect! xx #bigfatlinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 2:52 pm

      Our school doesn’t celebrate Father’s Day. I think that is the case in many schools because Mother’s Day is linked to christianity and Father’s Day is not. It’s such a shame though. Thank you :)

  6. Something Crunchy Mummy 27 June, 2015 / 7:38 am

    It’s so great you feel this way! I have always looked at Father’s Day as a special day #bigfatlinky :-)

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 2:53 pm

      What did you do this year?

  7. Elizabeth (Wander Mum) 27 June, 2015 / 8:11 am

    What a lovely post. And a great Father’s Day you had. A father’s role in a child’s life has changed tremendously over the past few decades and I can only see it growing bigger. #bigfatlinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 2:53 pm

      Absolutely agree. Thank you :)

  8. Luke Strickland 27 June, 2015 / 8:13 am

    Glad you had a great day. My day was more mundane, and I wonder whether the challenge is for every day to become a Father’s Day in some way, shape or form?

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 2:54 pm

      Thank you. What did you do with your day Luke?

  9. Alexandra Hurton 27 June, 2015 / 8:14 am

    “celebrating a father’s unconditional love”…beautiful! #BigFatLinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 2:54 pm

      Thank you Alexandra. My love for Ted is certainly that :)

  10. Mummy Fever 27 June, 2015 / 10:06 am

    Absolutely ! I said something similar about Mothers Day #bigfatlinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 2:50 pm

      Ah i’ll take a look at it :)

  11. Dawn of the Dad 27 June, 2015 / 12:15 pm

    Having a son has done a lot to re-address my relationship with my father, so I’m all for it.

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 2:49 pm

      Absolutely agree. Funny how it takes becoming a dad to make that change in your mind set with your own.

  12. Hannah Atkinson 27 June, 2015 / 1:38 pm

    Glad it was so special for you. Not every Dad feels the same way, my childs Father was a bit busy and only came to see my son after lunch after I gave him grief. #bigfatlinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 2:48 pm

      Sorry to hear that. Hope your son had a nice time when they did see each other :)

  13. Toni @ Gym Bunny Mummy 27 June, 2015 / 2:12 pm

    A fab post with great sentiments. I don’t think we need ‘special’ days as parents but I love that it’s an extra to focus on the family even more so & that makes it special #BigFatLinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 2:46 pm

      Thank you for the compliment. I agree that we don’t ‘need’ all these days but it is quite nice to really focus for the day. Thank you :)

  14. Ali 27 June, 2015 / 4:03 pm

    It sounds like you’ve had a fantastic role model & Ted has been born into a dynasty of fab dads! I stopped half way through reading this to read it back out loud to my husband. His dad is pretty crap so he’s had to re write the parent role to try & be a different dad than him, it’s hearing how other father son relationships like this are which give him a nudge in the right direction. He loves the idea of a weekend walk with our boys when they grow up. Thanks for sharing. #bigfatlinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 8:32 pm

      I didn’t appreciate my dad enough until recently. Those weekend walks really are such great times together with memories for life. Is your husband in our dads group Ali?

  15. Kirsten Toyne 27 June, 2015 / 4:25 pm

    Great post. Fathers do need to be valued and our kids need to value the role of fathers so that when they get there they know how important it is. It is about more than Fathers day but it is a start.

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 8:31 pm

      Thank you very much Kirsten :)

  16. Jenny 27 June, 2015 / 6:06 pm

    Lovely post, nice to know that there are parents who care so much about their children. :) x

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 8:30 pm

      Words cannot describe it. Thank you :)

  17. Mrs Tubbs 27 June, 2015 / 7:33 pm

    You made me cry! Either that or hay fever. Beautiful post. So glad I found it via #bigfatlinky.

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 8:30 pm

      Ah thank you :) I’m a very lucky daddy.

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 8:30 pm

      Thank you. I hope you all had a nice day :)

  18. Kelly Edwards 27 June, 2015 / 8:00 pm

    I agree that Father’s day is an important day to celebrate the role that dad’s play in their children’s lives. I gave my husband the gift of letting him go out on a long bike ride (as well as a few other bits), as feel it’s important to let him have some ‘him’ time to still be himself! #bigfatlinky

    • Al Ferguson 27 June, 2015 / 8:29 pm

      I couldn’t agree more. Very important question – What bike does he have?

  19. International Elf Service 28 June, 2015 / 1:24 pm

    I’m so pleased you had such a good day – I think it’s a lovely day to spend time together though I’m less on the gifts thing – to me it just sets the kids up with expectations for when they’re older. I don’t want the kids feeling they have to buy me anything or acknowledge it – so if they do it’s truly from their heart and not because they feel they ought to.

  20. Adventures of a Novice Mum 30 June, 2015 / 12:35 am

    Awww … what a lovely post. “3 generations, two dads, two sons and the great outdoors” – captures it very well. It’s important that parents explore their own interests too, but my, our place and time with our children is quite something. Pleased that you had a lovely Father’s Day. :-) #bigfatlinky

    • Al Ferguson 30 June, 2015 / 10:05 pm

      Thank you. Definitely need time to explore our interests

  21. casey grice 7 July, 2015 / 2:07 am

    Al, great post. I know I’m a little late getting to this comment but better late than never. We had a great Father’s Day. Spent with my dad and my boys. To me Father’s Day is about getting in as much quality time as possible… when it comes right down to it that’s every day actually. Glad you guys had a good one… and bath time is definitely daddy time at our house too… we have a blast and many laughs in the tub.

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