Is it just me, or do all dads find it hard watching their partners suffer: being sick, having a constant headache, back ache and uncomfortable sleeps? Let a lone the fact that this is only the 2nd trimester. I wish, just for one day, that I could take that load off her and give her a break. It seems very selfish of me!
And we’re so powerless. What can we do? What does she want? Confused!?!?!? I can get her drinks, offer more cushions, do more errands, but it doesn’t seem enough. How do we deal with this? Maybe there’s no answer, just one of lifes mysterious, frustrating ways.
My answer is this: support, encourage, offer, listen and love. I know all those things take different forms, but if what you’re doing falls into one of those categories, I think you’re doing well. I certainly try to make sure I’m in them – and hate it when my flaws prevail.
Here’s my list of small things that go a long way to helping:
#1 Take her on a date at every possible opportunity.
#2 Romance her once in a while – she probably feels rough as anything, show her otherwise!
#4 Help her relax – candle, bath, gossip magazine, food rub, music.
#5 Clean up the house – at the very least after yourself!
#6 Make sure she has the chance to buy some maternity clothes.
If anyone has any other thoughts/answers, I would love to hear them, as I’m sure most other expectant dads would to.