Push Presents; an excuse to spend money?


There’s nothing more joyful (and slightly confusing) than coming home from work, walking into the dining room and finding a piano. I was lucky enough to experience this joy (and confusion) recently. On closer inspection I found a card with my name on it so after a good 30 minutes of playing/hitting the keys with hope, I opened the card. Obviously, curiosity came second to my excitement in that moment! It was a lovely letter from the darling wife thanking me for my support throughout the pregnancy and labour and this piano was a ‘push present.’

Let me pause here and just say that I don’t deserve anything for my efforts in comparison. It was the wife who did the hard work, the wife that went through the pain and the wife that should get the piano…

In my head, I’m still debating whether push presents fall into the ‘unnecessary spending’ category and have yet to conclude, but this category is certainly growing! What with Christening parties, passing your driving test cards, happy Wednesday presents the world is slowly going mad with finding an excuse to party and spend hard earned (and in a lot of cases, borrowed) money. 

Here’s a few of my predictions of where I think this craze will go next: 

#1 Congratulations on your hair cut cards
#2 Good luck cards for having a poo
#3 Waking up parties

Maybe I am a grumpy old man… but I cannot fathom the mindset of spending money to celebrate things that really require nothing more than a pat on the back, a hand shake or “well done.”

I definitely don’t think that giving birth only requires a pat on the back…well…I don’t think that publicly at least and I do think that between mum and dad carrying and delivering a baby should be acknowledged as an achievement and something very special. I guess then, that in a matter of minutes whilst writing this post, I have made up my mind that push presents are a good thing, when they are personal between a mum and a dad. I would even go as far to say that is is crucial that you and your partner acknowledge what you have both been through and tell each other that you appreciate the other and are thankful for all that they did. So, the money making gimmicky gifts you can find on the web are not OK! 

My suggestion for any expecting dads whose partners are laying on the pressure with a very large paint brush, (the wife did not do this to me), think sentimental. Think special. We did, and it is really lovely and really important. 

And just for the record, I am getting the wife a ‘good luck for your next poo card…’ you heard it hear first! 

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  1. Dave H 29 September, 2014 / 3:14 pm

    That’s a pretty awesome present you got. I wrote about push presents a few months ago and got so many varied opinion on them when I asked on Twitter – you can read it here if you fancy http://thedadventurer.com/pregnancy/introducing-push-presents-pregnancys-marmite. I’ve just recently bought the wife a ring with the birth stone for August to signify the birth of our little one. The idea is that this then gets passed down when she becomes 18 or 21 for instance. I wanted to get her something and really like the idea of it being special. I think push presents are a bad idea if people think they need to buy one and spend loads of money, but there is no harm if it is something the dad wants to do.

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