Should you wear a bikini when pregnant?

 Should you wear a bikini when pregnant

We went swimming at 39 weeks pregnant and the wife wore a bikini. Unbeknown to me at first, being as observant as a mole, people were giving the wife odd looks. I might even go as far as saying ‘disgusted’ looks. Prior to going, it didn’t even enter my mind that people might be offended by a pregnant women in a bikini and since recieving these looks, I have no idea what their problem is! 

I looked into this a little further and found that the internet is littered with people having major issues with pregnant women wearing bikinis. Poor Tori Spelling had a horrid time after she was caught on camera sporting a skimpy swim suit bikini whilst heavily pregnant.

Here’s a few quotes from the comments her photo received: 

“Too much showing. Not suitable for a pregnant mom with a seven-month-old.
“Ewww. She’s pregnant! Cover that bump up! No one wants to see that!!”
“NOT motherly AT ALL. In future years she will surely regret that unflattering picture. COVER up girl!”
“That suit is barely suitable for a non-pregnant woman let alone a pregnant one!”
“Have a little more modestly when you’re pregnant!!! Geez!!!”
“She’s pregnant and wearing this? She’s just trashy and looks like a ………..”


I couldn’t believe my eyes reading the various comments and opinions so I thought that I would locate the worst/best of what I found and then address it myself. 


“Gross if noticeably pregnant. A big belly may be awe-inspiring, kiss-worthy, life-creating and rhetorical thing of beauty but in a bikini it just does not look good. I get the heebie-jeebies from seeing any bared pregnant midriff.”

Gross? Have they actually just said it’s gross? If we’re talking about what doesn’t look good in a bikini, pregnancy, in my mind, is way down the list. I think this issue needs an element of perspective. 
“Not everyone wants to see bulging belly flaunted in their face. Princess Kate Middleton, she carried herself with grace. These people who wear bikinis or skin tight shirts…now that’s gross.” 
Princess Middleton probably has a very long list of do’s and don’ts and I’ll bet a large sum of money that doing anything controversial is firmly on the don’ts list. Not everyone wants smoke blown in their face walking down the street, not everyone wants to hear people swearing, not everyone wants to see soft porn splattered all over our advertisements. This person should understand we live in a society where people are free to do as they choose.
“My mother…even complains if a pregnant women wears a tight top showing her belly, damn they should cover themselves up.”
There is a point to make here about tradition. Historically women felt more comfortable within society to cover their bumps up. There are even accounts of women not leaving the house when they started to show as it was deemed inappropriate. Yet, it was during these times that women had a raw deal; they weren’t allowed to vote or speak freely. Times have changed!
“I think it’s inappropriate and not attractive at all.” 
Attraction! Is this really the point here? I don’t find 99% of the population attractive and yet they can wear bikinis without disgusted looks. Physical attraction is such a personal thing, dependant on so many things. Hair colour, eye colour, size, age, ethnicity, fashion etc etc… when I find someone unattractive I find it pretty easy to control myself from issuing disgusted looks. 
“Pregnant bellies are just as attractive as a massive beer gut. Actually less so if they have that nasty poppin’-out belly button. That makes me gag.”
Really? A massive beer gut is caused by an unhealthy lifestyle, which must be considered when thinking about attraction and pregnancy is a natural part of life and creation, a beer gut isn’t! I’m unsure how this person managed to avoid kicking themselves in the face after writing that comment! 
“Can’t a pregnant women wear a regular bathing suit rather than a bikini?” 
Correct me if I’m wrong from looking at this with my male, logical, problem solving hat on but surely when you have a huge bump wearing something that doesn’t effect that area is far more practical, comfortable and sensible? After all the trouble I’ve had with the wife and her wardrobe, it was actually refreshing for her to wear something that wasn’t “too tight for the bump” or “won’t fit over the bump.” I think bikinis are a bloody good idea for pregnant women! 


Ok, so as a dad, here’s my conclusion. It’s very simple. I think people should be able to wear whatever they choose. Men, women, pregnant or not, without judgement and criticism from others. I think my wife and her bump look stunning and I’m very proud of her and her body. I certainly wouldn’t want her worrying about whether others think she looks attractive or not. Who cares? As long as she feels good and comfortable, that’s all that matters. 
If you’re comfortable wearing what your wearing then great. Happy days! People have no right to give out dirty looks, comments or criticism. And if they do, ignore them. The Dad Network has spoken! 
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  1. Daniella 17 September, 2014 / 9:43 am

    Looks great in the pic. You got the courage. Keep going! Wish you all the strength! :)

  2. Dr Anon 4 January, 2016 / 11:20 pm

    Disgusting. I will never understand why you people insist we think and feel the way you do. Seeing a pregnant woman is instantaneously repulsive to me; more so when the shebeast is bikini clad.

    I bet your own wife looks great pregnant with your child. The rest of us would just like some damned decorum and respect.

    • Hannah Budding Smiles 5 January, 2016 / 7:42 pm

      Pahahaha Seriously? Shebeast? Superb! As a ‘Shebeast’ who’s currently 25 weeks pregnant, swimming is very helpful for my pregnancy aches and pains and I’ll wear whatever whatever I damn well please when doing so because anyone who finds a bump offensive really needs to sort out their priorities. I’m sure that not every single person who sees you finds you attractive, that doesn’t give them the right to call you offensive names just because you don’t fit their idea of beauty as you’re going about your daily life so you, in turn, don’t have the right to be such a judgmental *person* (see how inoffensive I’m being?) towards pregnant ladies. My blog link is included in case you feel like being disproportionately insulted further by another woman growing a human life.

    • Danny C 5 January, 2016 / 7:47 pm

      You’re mad. I think you’re forgetting that you too came from the loins of a so called “she-beast”, wind it in and have some decorum and respect yourself you narrow minded fool.

      Play the “Anon” game hidden behind a keyboard insulting the most natural thing in the world? Aren’t you an absolute gem.

    • Caroline 5 January, 2016 / 7:50 pm

      Oh cool. So it’s completely fine for someone to wander around with their tits hanging out and a skirt so short you can see their breakfast, as long as they’re doing for your own sexual gratification. Got it!

    • Dan 5 January, 2016 / 8:14 pm

      Dr. Anon what an excellent and completely anonymous name for an oxygen theiving keyboard warrior!!!! It’s the 21st century sunshine wake up and deal with it. Pregnancy should be celebrated and what better way to do so.
      If you don’t like the sight you see then look the other way of in public. If it’s on the internet then allow your brain to tell your thumb to scroll past and ignore you ever saw anything. Rather than pretend to be something your not and ‘try’ to upset people with your negative thoughts.
      Much Love

    • AJ 5 January, 2016 / 10:40 pm

      Poor Dr Anon classic Mother issues, not enough breast!?!

    • Kate 6 January, 2016 / 1:18 am

      I’ve seen fat men at the beach with bigger bellies that most pregnant women. Now THAT’S disgusting!

    • Honest Mum 6 January, 2016 / 9:21 am

      Initially I found your comment to be disgusting, but I soon veered to something far worse-feeling great sorrow for you, that you could feel this way on a woman in a bikini creating life. For you to be so repulsed by LITERALLY the most natural thing in the world is so incredibly sad- but let’s unravel how you came to this position. The media undoubtedly have played a huge part in this- and clearly your indoctrination of what and when, a woman has a right (which she indeed does have), should show her body. The female form is so often reduced to being purely an object of desire, a vehicle for sex in the media and beyond, that many, ignorantly feel deep confusion when they see a woman pregnant or breastfeeding. Both these things clearly need naturalising. Wishing you greater clarity and wisdom.

    • Julia Collibgs 6 January, 2016 / 11:58 am

      Decorum and respect?! That’s rich, coming from you, who clearly lacks both of these qualities. Your attitude and comment was disgusting.

    • Chris 19 January, 2016 / 3:27 pm

      I have to assume that you boast a defined athletic physique? I’m sure there would be plenty of women who’d be willing to attest otherwise that they’d want to see you in swimwear.

      Unless of course, you’d be willing to demonstrate decorum and respect by remaining fully clothed at all times.

    • Meg 5 February, 2016 / 6:41 pm

      Don’t feed the trolls seriously though. Great post. If I get pregnant again I plan to go swimming and what I choose to wear whilst doing so is my business! There’s nothing gross about it. Its biology. How humans are made. Some people like to find things to complain about!

    • K. Jansen 11 June, 2016 / 5:42 am

      Its very simple really. From a second time mom, and military at that, if you dont like what you see, you don’t have to look! If you keep looking, then your a massichist and you need to get over yourself.

  3. Kate Tunstall 5 January, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    Love this post! And LOVE that it was a husband writing it – good on you!

    I am speechless about the above comment. I genuinely cannot respond. Well done to the lady who did, and good luck!

  4. Stephanie 6 January, 2016 / 12:23 am

    Love this post too – and some people need to get over themselves!! Yes you Dr Anon for one!

  5. Kayla 9 June, 2016 / 1:28 am

    I love this article!! I completely agree with you. My brother and his wife are expecting their first child and she looks great in a bikini! People look at pregnant women in bikinis and are disgusted, but they see overweight women in bikinis and say nothing…

  6. Winter 4 July, 2016 / 4:59 pm

    1 Timothy 2:9 English Standard Version (ESV)

    9 likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control

    1 Corinthians 6:19-20English Standard Version (ESV)

    19 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

    Proverbs 11:22English Standard Version (ESV)

    22 Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout
    is a beautiful woman without discretion.

    Romans 12:1English Standard Version (ESV)

    A Living Sacrifice
    12 I appeal to you therefore, brothers,[a] by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.[b]

    1 John 2:16English Standard Version (ESV)

    16 For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life[a]—is not from the Father but is from the world.

    • Al Ferguson 5 July, 2016 / 6:45 pm

      Wow! You spent a long time on Biblegateway! Can I assume that you feel the same about women in bikinis who aren’t pregnant?

      • Winter 6 July, 2016 / 11:05 am

        Hi Al :)

        Okay.. so I’m going to be very very unpopular here.. but i do think that women shouldn’t wear bikinis, pregnant or not. I don’t say it without reason though and I will cover it from 2 angles.

        1. As a husband, do you not feel as though your wife is exposed and that she is showing off what is, in a way yours, to other men? The body is sacred, God says its his temple,and the areas being exposed to the world is what has been given to you in marriage. There are certain areas of a woman’s body which should be for her husbands eyes only. And the Bikinis don’t really leave much to imagination.

        Mark 10:8-12English Standard Version (ESV)

        8 and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.

        2. I’m sure you’ll agree with me Al, that men can lust after things rather easily. Especially women (Some men at least). And according to the bible even if you don’t act out on lustful intentions, you still have committed a sin.

        Matthew 5:28 ESV / 1,470 helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful

        But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

        Said harshly, women wearing bikinis could be seen as people who are leading others to sin. Whether the people who have felt lust for women in their bikini has acted out on it or not.

        James 1:14-15 ESV / 326 helpful votes

        But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.

        Job 31:1 ESV / 258 helpful votes

        “I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?

        Mark 7:20-23 ESV / 176 helpful votes

        And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”

        Romans 13:14 ESV / 166 helpful votes

        But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.

        Matthew 5:29 ESV / 78 helpful votes

        If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell.

        Romans 6:13 ESV / 44 helpful votes

        Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness.

        I apologize if any of what i have said is offensive, its really not my intention to anger or upset anyone and i know that this is a touchy subject.
        Apologies also if my reply seems targeted.. I tried my best not to make it seem that way because it was not my intention.
        I’m not sure what religion you follow, but i really hope my reply helps and makes some sense. :)
        I wish you and your family all the best. :)

        • Ferny 7 July, 2016 / 2:29 am

          So… Women are the property of their husbands and men are no better than animals who can’t control their own base urges? Nice religion you got there mate. Time to think about updating it now that the Middle Ages are well and truely behind us.

        • Mom of two boys 7 July, 2016 / 6:51 pm

          Many of your Biblical quotes have to do with the sins of men. If women are to blame for the sins often them what you are suggesting is that attractive women should never be seen in public, since they would be too big a temptation for men. You realize how backwards that is, right. A woman is not an object for men’s lust. She is a person that has the right to enjoy all the freedoms that you do without being viewed as a sexual mosfit. Also for your information, I was made as much in my Creator’s image as you were. Nothing about my body is disgusting or something to be ashamed of. Where a bikini is not always about being sexy as described above in the original post. While you have the right to your opinion, realize that your opinion is subjugating women to the needs of men rather than allowing a woman to define herself. I’m sorry that you cannot see past a woman’s clothes to determine her worth. You are missing out on a lot of great people!

        • Al Ferguson 8 July, 2016 / 2:51 pm

          Thanks for this. I think it highlights the difference between faith and religion. You seem religious, rather than someone who has a faith. Could be wrong. Anyway, if everyone agreed, life would be very dull indeed. :) Thanks again and you too

  7. Mom of two boys 7 July, 2016 / 6:55 pm

    Sorry for the typos. I’m on my phone

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